written by guardian of the gateway in the Bardo realms to prepare entrance into play space (Halloween 2017)
We commit to attunement :
I am in constant dialogue with my inner state & needs and monitoring my potential playmates on all communication channels : non-verbally (body language), energetically, and vocally. Consent is a continuous collaborative conversation and I continue to expand my capacity to scan, express, and receive messages through my present physicality.
We commit to expression :
Communicating my boundaries and preferences early and often, I am the caretaker of my body temple. I resound with sound and corporeal communication : I am sonically unrestrained and move towards what attracts me and readjust touch for personal pleasure. I am completely responsible for my well-being and if I need help meeting my needs I ask immediately (noting that I need to be more personally proactive in preparing in the future).
We commit to clarity :
‘When in doubt I wait it out’ – if I am uncertain as to whether my playmate is enthusiastic (if they are in a neutral or freeze state) I take a ‘prolonged pause’ and watch for signs of body-based affirmative consent (moving towards, rising to meet) and if still unclear, verbally check in.
We commit to a community of care :
We look out for our fellow playmates, especially those with less experience – committing to keeping a compassionate eye out for their best interests. I educate others through modelling respectful relations. I honor existing connections and relationships and seek a yes before inserting myself into an active dynamic.
We commit to ‘invitation without expectation’ :
I do not hold grabby, needy energy, or pressure my playmates when conveying my desires and requests. I support openness, curiosity, and expansive exploration. I know how to safely lean into my edges to evolve in my understanding of myself. I find freedom within boundaries and am inspired to act creatively within these limits.
We commit to aftercare for myself and playmates :
I caretake the bodies and spirits of those I engage with – checking in to see if I can nurture them physically with water, food, or supportive touch (spooning, cuddling). I am open to sharing what I enjoyed / found challenging, or agree to circle back with conversation at another time.
My mark here represents my full reading and embodiment of the Consent Contract and that I commit to Confidentiality: No mentioning of names of participants without their explicit consent, no pictures, no video, and no audio recording.
Copy by consent content creatrix, Razma : www.raz.ma : draft 1.2